At some point, we’ve all heard or said the phrase “Stay in Your Lane,” but what does it REALLY mean?
Staying in your lane means being true to YOURSELF, your gifts, talents, and vision. It means being authentic and embracing what YOU uniquely bring to the table.It means recognizing that YOU have a different perspective that is valuable and necessary.
I’m sure all of that sounds really empowering….IF you know what YOUR lane is.
But in today’s social media -fueled world, it is easy to get wrapped up in what everyone else is doing, and how they’re doing it. And if you’re not careful, all of a sudden you find yourself looking at other people’s gifts, talents, and vision wishing they were yours.
Not only is that incredibly frustrating because you can you try exactly what they tried and not get the results (because they were in their lane)…But, you miss out on opportunities that were specifically designed for you because you’re not in position.
Now, don’t get me wrong. It is okay to admire what someone has done or even learn how they did it.But, you have to personalize it and make sure it aligns with who YOU are and YOUR talents. Otherwise, you could be forcing something that was never meant for you and you won’t be able to maintain it.
As an example, I’ve been in my role at my job for 8.5 years. During that amount of time, I’ve seen nine other people who were hired for the same position, but weren’t able to make it. Was it because they were less qualified? No. It’s because they tried to be someone they weren’t. They saw someone who was successful in our business and they tried to be them.
I made a conscious decision early in my career that I was going to bring my own style and my own experience. As a result, I have become known for my speaking style and it has allowed me to work with companies that were looking for something different and unique.
If staying in your lane is something you have a hard time doing or your not sure what your lane is, the best place to start is be identifying your personal gifts and talents. Your gifts are the things you do well with the least amount of effort. This will help you identify what your lane is and then determine ways to lean into it.